Should you have a bachelorette party for someone that is already married?
Posted by admin on September 3, 2010
Weddings
A friend ɡοt married tο ѕοmе dude ѕhе knew fοr 3 weeks. Now, a year later іѕ рƖаnnіnɡ a formal wedding. I аm іn thе wedding, bυt hаνе never met hеr husband thаt ѕhе hаѕ bееn married tο fοr аƖmοѕt a year now. Dο I throw hеr a bachelorette party?
Brit said,
I wouldn’t throw a bachelorette party, per se. At least not in the "normal" sense of the words (i.e. going out and getting hammered and having male strippers dance for her). That would be totally inappropriate and if that’s what she’s expecting then she shouldn’t be married. Anyway, that aside, you could throw her a party of sorts where a bunch of her girlfriends get together and they do something fun and crazy for the day/evening. You could have a lingerie party as suggested above, a "passion" party (like a sex toy party where you get to check out various types of erotic toys and accessories (it’s weird, but some people are into it)) or go out for a girl’s-night-out. Maybe you guys could even stay in and have an old-fashioned sleep over like you may have done when you were younger. Perhaps go to an amusement park for the day? (I think this is what my girls are planning.)
If you want to throw her a party, do something fun and amazing, but I don’t think you should feel obligated to do so. She chose to get married on short-notice and not "go through" the "process" generally associated with getting married and being a bride. I think that she shouldn’t expect these things, but if you are good friends then why not? Everyone loves a good party. But again, it’s really up to you and your feelings, budget, etc.
Good luck!
hanstar said,
I got married in May, but I am having a formal wedding in December. My friends are throwing me a lingerie shower and it is sorta going to be a bachelorette party, but I am married and we do not have any strippers or anything like that all they are doing is buying me some lingerie and we are going out to eat and it is my last time with all of my girls before I move up to where my husband is stationed at. So I do not see anything wrong with it just do let it get too out of hand because she is married.
STRESSED spells DESSERTS said,
eh. I don’t personally see the traditional lets get wasted and watch a naked man drink. However something like a lingerie party and/or a "romance" party (smelling candles, massage oils, edible lotions, etc – nothing raunchy)
Saira said,
You can have a Party . There is no wrong in having a party . It can be considered something as a treat you are giving to your friends.
Avis B said,
If you wish to celebrate your friends upcoming wedding with some of her friends or family members or other bridal party members then meet at a restaurant for a Sunday brunch or have a luncheon at a small hotel on a Saturday afternoon or have a pajama party at someone’s home (manicures, pedicures, and a romantic movie). A bachelorette party a year later is inappropriate.
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truefirstedition said,
You could have a fun girls’ night out, but I wouldn’t call it a bachelorette party. She’s an old married lady now.